They are too much for other children

What to do right now

They are too fast, too physical, too loud, too much. Other children regulate their energy to match the group. Your child cannot. The intensity that makes them exhausting is also what makes them passionate, creative, and loyal. The mismatch is real. Smaller groups work better. One-on-one playdates work better. Find the children who match their energy or appreciate their intensity.

What your brain just did

Your body

They are too fast, too physical, too loud. Other children pull away or ask them to stop.

Your brain

ADHD arousal regulation means they cannot match their energy to the group's energy. The intensity is not chosen. It is the baseline their nervous system operates at.

What this did

Smaller groups. One-on-one playdates. Activities where intensity is an asset. Find the contexts where their energy matches, rather than trying to suppress it in contexts where it does not.