They always need the last word
ADHD child behaviour
Perseverative speech means the conversational loop will not close until the emotional resolution their brain is chasing arrives, and it has not. They cannot stop because the feeling driving the words has not been discharged. Walking away is not losing. Say 'We are done talking about this for now,' then physically move to another space. The conversation ends when you stop participating, not when they agree to.
What to do right now
Every argument ends with them getting the last word. The conversation cannot close because their need for resolution is stronger than your need for it to stop. The last word is perseverative. Walking away is not losing. Say: 'We are done talking about this for now.' Then physically move to a different space. The conversation ends when you stop participating, not when they agree to stop.
What your brain just did
Your body
The conversation cannot end. They keep coming back with one more thing.
Your brain
Perseverative speech in ADHD means the conversational loop does not close because the emotional resolution the brain is seeking has not arrived. They cannot stop because the feeling driving the words has not been discharged.
What this did
Walking away is not losing. 'We are done talking about this for now.' Then physically move. The conversation ends when you stop participating, not when they agree to stop.