They hurt me during a meltdown and I cannot just move on

What to do right now

They hit you, kicked you, bit you, threw something at you. The meltdown ended but the bruise or the shock is still sitting in your body. You are supposed to be the adult who understands that it was the ADHD, not them. But your body does not care about the explanation. Your body was hurt. You are allowed to need time to recover. You are allowed to say 'that hurt me and it is not okay' without it being punitive. Safety planning for violent meltdowns is a reasonable next step.

What your brain just did

Your body

The physical impact is sitting in your body. The explanation that it was the ADHD does not erase the pain.

Your brain

Your body processes physical impact as threat regardless of context. Understanding the neurology does not override the stress response. Both things are true: it was the ADHD and it hurt you.

What this did

You are allowed to say 'that hurt me and it is not okay' without it being punitive. Physical safety is non-negotiable for everyone in the house, including you.